So why is active listening so important? When we actively listen, we show the other person that we value and respect their thoughts and opinions, which can help to build trust and strengthen relationships. When we actively intend to listen, it allows us to better understand their perspective and emotions. We don't even need to analyze deeply, just really listen.

There are often fear and benefit components to resentment. We might fear being rejected or having our resentment ignored, belittled, or defended against. We may worry that bringing up the issue will lead to conflict or even end the relationship.

On the other hand, we may benefit from holding onto our resentment.